Lets talk about death
Published 06 September 2023
We sat down with Dr John Rosenberg from The University of the Sunshine Coast to find out a bit more about the inspiring and intriguing Death Café program coming to libraries.
Could you explain what Death Cafe is to those who have never heard of it? How would you describe the atmosphere and the kind of conversations that take place?
A Death Café is a pop-up event where people can have open conversations about dying, death, and grief. Over a cup of tea or coffee, in a location where people usually gather to chat, a Death Café is a safe place to increase awareness of death and the issues around it – everything from palliative care and grief support; how to put together an Enduring Power of Attorney and an Advance Care Plan; what options for funeral ceremonies there are; how to connect our communities to support one another when things get tough; and so much more.
What inspired the creation of the Death Café program?
Most people have some contact with the death of another at some point in their lives, and all of us will die someday. But because of fear and stigma, talking about these issues is often pushed under the rug. Enough was enough for Jon Underwood in the UK. Death Cafés were founded in 2011 in London and have been running ever since in many countries all around the world. It seems that people DO want to talk about death!
Most would assume that discussing life and death would be a heavy-hearted conversation. Do you find that people are surprised by the Death Café experience?
It might sound morbid, but conversations about life and death won’t kill you. In fact, they are an essential part of our lives. Of course, it’s a serious matter, but it’s equally important to understand it and plan well ahead. People who’ve attended Death Cafés are often surprised that the conversations are authentic and heartfelt, without being morbid. People often find it a relief to be in a place where such open conversations can take place.
What would you say to those who might be hesitant to attend a Death Cafe event?
Come along and see for yourself – if you don’t want to stay, you can leave without any concern. Remember, it’s not a counselling session or therapy, simply a conversation amongst interested people. And to make it better, we always serve cake – it's a must when talking about these things!
If you were in a cake decorating contest with a ‘Life and Death’ theme, how would you decorate your cake?
Yellow smiley face emoji with the words “Death rates are holding steady at 100%” writ large!
Find out more about Dr. Rosenberg Death Café here.